20 Inner Child Healing Prompts to Spark Healing
When working on yourself, it’s essential to have compassion for your inner child. The idea of “inner child” healing is something we talk about a lot in self-help circles, but some people don’t know precisely what it means.
And if you do know what an inner child is and how to work on your relationship with her, there are still many questions about how best to help her heal. Well, guess what? I have answers for both questions, and prepared inner child healing prompts to spark your healing.
How would you define an inner child?
An inner child is the part of you that feels like a child, but it’s also the part that feels hurt, scared, angry, and frustrated.
It’s not just your emotions. It’s more than that; it’s also your true essence—your soul—and it wants to feel safe and secure. When you’re in touch with your inner child, you know everything will be okay. She doesn’t want drama or stress; she wants to feel safe and secure. Your inner child needs attention, love, and protection from others, especially yourself!
How can I get in touch with my inner child?
You may not even be aware of your inner child. But if you’re feeling stressed or anxious, that’s a sign that your inner child needs some attention. It doesn’t mean that you’re crazy or have multiple personalities; it just means another part of yourself needs nurturing and care.
Inner child work is a form of psychotherapy that helps you heal your wounds and fulfill your needs. It can be done on your own or with the help of a therapist. You might want to start by becoming aware of where you feel stress, anger, or sadness in your body. Then take some time each day to sit quietly with this feeling and visualize it transforming into something positive.
For example, if you feel tension in your jaw or teeth, try holding a pillow or stuffed animal in your mouth and smiling. If you feel the rage boiling up inside of you, imagine yourself as a small child playing with blocks or Legos. It’s important to acknowledge that these feelings exist within us—and that they’re perfectly normal.
Questions to ask your inner child
What needs do you have that I haven’t been taking care of?
Once you’re feeling safe and secure, ask your inner child what needs they have that haven’t been met. Listen to their response without judgment and follow through on the promises made. This can be very difficult for some people as it involves being vulnerable, but it is vital for healing to take place.
When dealing with an inner child and their needs, there may not always be an answer right away. Sometimes it just takes time for your inner child to trust you enough so they can share what they need with you; other times, it may take longer than expected because there are fears that need to be overcome first or other obstacles preventing access to deeper emotions or secrets held by the inner child (this is where parenting comes in). Remember that each person has their journey, so don’t rush yourself or others!
What would you like to do together more often?
Now that you’ve gotten to know your inner child, it’s time to start building a relationship with them. This can be a tender process and is often best done in small steps.
One way to get started is by asking your inner child what they would like to do together more often. If you have the courage, try doing this activity with them: listening to music, going for a walk, or watching a movie together are all ways of making space for reconnection. You might even take turns playing games or with the dog or cat—whatever brings joy!
The possibilities are endless as long as they bring joy into your life and help heal any wounds from childhood trauma (physical or emotional).
What memories hurt you the most and why?
This is a great question to ask your inner child, which may help you identify what triggers your pain. It can also help you understand why you feel the way you do. Sometimes, it might even help you work through some of this pain!
What could I do to make it safer for you to come out more?
- Make sure you are in a safe place—you don’t want to come out if there is a chance that your inner child will be hurt or scared.
- Make sure you are not distracted by other things, like other people or activities around you (so turn your phone off!)
- Give yourself enough time to listen and understand what your inner child needs from you today.
- Be in a good mood, so your inner child feels happy and comfortable talking with you today.
- Be comfortable—use pillows or blankets if necessary!
- Don’t try this when too tired – it’s better to wait until the next day when rested up 🙂
Are there any activities we could do together to help us get to know each other better?
You may have noticed that in the following prompts, I use the word “you.” That’s because your inner child is an extension of you, so it’s essential not to forget this when working with them. Remember that your inner child is just another part of you – they are not separate from you and need love, too!
Allowing yourself to feel safe around your inner child also helps them feel safe with themselves. This also helps open communication between the two parts of ourselves so we can truly understand each other better. There are some steps you can take towards making sure that your inner child feels safe with themselves:
- Be gentle and patient when interacting with them (and yourself)
- Give both parts of yourself lots of care during this process – don’t forget about any part! This can be challenging, but it’s important to remember that if you are feeling angry, sad, or frustrated towards your inner child, they will feel the same way towards themselves. It’s not helpful to make them feel bad about themselves – instead, we want to help them feel safe and loved so they can begin healing.
How can I better protect you from things that trigger your pain?
Take a few minutes to think about better protecting yourself from things that trigger your pain.
What are the triggers? Where do they come from? Can you avoid them, or at least prepare for them if they are unavoidable? Is there anything else that might be helpful for my inner child to know about before we go on this journey together?
As an adult, it’s up to you whether or not you want to deal with these feelings and emotions head-on. You may decide that it’s better to focus on healing yourself rather than fixing the original problem, but either way is acceptable!
When did you first start feeling this way?
Were you in school at the time?
Was your family going through a difficult time?
Were you in a relationship with someone who made you feel bad about yourself?
Did something happen at work, or had you just moved to a new city?
What would things help you feel safer and more secure in your relationship with each other?
- Be open to the child’s feelings.
- Be patient with the child and allow them to trust you before they will come out.
- Make it safe for the child to come out by listening without judgment or scolding.
- Don’t blame, judge, or scold the child. This will only make them feel more insecure in your relationship than necessary!
If you are unsure if your inner child is ready to talk, ask them if there is anything they want to discuss in the future. If they are not yet ready, they might say, “Not now.” or “It’s not time yet.” However, it would be best to let your inner child know that you will always be there for them when they are ready and listen.
You can also ask your inner child what they want to talk about by saying things like “What do you want me to know?” or “What do I need to hear from you?” You can also use this prompt to explore other ways of connecting, perhaps having a conversation while playing games together. Or maybe take a walk outside together?
Do you feel like I listen to and understand what you’re trying to say, or do I judge or scold you too much?
If your inner child feels judged by the person they trust, they will be afraid to open up. Your inner child needs to know that when they speak up, it won’t result in punishment.
You can help your inner child learn to trust by being a good listener. Listen carefully as she speaks about her fears and concerns. Be non-judgmental of her feelings; telling her that her feelings are wrong or bad will only make her more afraid of speaking them aloud in the future.
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Do you feel safe coming out in front of me, or are there specific times or situations when it feels scary for you to be seen by me?
- If so, what do you think would help make those situations feel safer?
Inner Child Healing Prompts – Conclusion
Becoming a whole person means working on your relationship with your inner child. Inner child healing is a process, and it takes time. But you can start the journey at home in the comfort of your own space. That’s why we’ve put together some prompts for you to work on.
The best way to heal our past wounds, whether from childhood or beyond, is by engaging with the pain gently and lovingly—and that means having a relationship with your inner child! The more we can love ourselves and accept ourselves as children (even if that wasn’t how things were when we were younger), the more room there will be in our lives for healing old wounds.
If your inner child is feeling hurt or scared, it’s essential to take the time to listen to them and help them feel safe. You can do this by giving them lots of hugs or doing activities together that bring you closer as a team.